How to be a friend of yourself 如何成为你自己的朋友？

　　friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.- eleanor roosevelt 　　we often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. that is the crucial first step if we are to have good relationships with others. how can we have good relationships with others if we don't even have good relationship with ourselves? 　　the problem might be worse than we expect. maybe we don't like ourselves without realizing it. here is a simple checklist; is there anything you don't like about yourself from these list? 　　your past 　　maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. you might be disappointed with yourself on why you could make such mistakes. even if that happened in distant past, your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself. 　　your background 　　you might wish that you were born in different family, or that you have different background. maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as others, who seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background. 　　your personality traits 　　you might have some personality traits that you don't like. for example, you may be an introvert and you don't like it; you wish you are an extrovert. 　　your achievements relative to others others might have better achievements than you, and no matter how hard you tried, it might seem impossible for you to match them. you might then think that it's because you are not smart enough or don't have enough talents. is there anything that resonate with you? all these give reasons to you not to like yourself. that in turn makes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself. 　　fortunately, there are always things you can do to fix the situation. here are some tips: 　　1. forgive yourself 　　you may have made those mistakes in the past, but is there anything you can do about them? i don't think so, except learning from them. it's true that you are not perfect, but neither is everybody else. it’s normal to make mistakes, so do yourself a favor by giving yourself forgiveness. 　　2. accept things you can't change 　　there are some things you cannot change, such as your background and your past. so learn to accept them. you will feel much relieved if you treat things you can’t change the way they deserve: just accept them, smile, and move on. 　　3. focus on your strengths 　　instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. you always have some strengths which give you a unique combination nobody else have. recognize your strengths and build your life around them. 　　health top tips nutrition lifestyle 　　4. write your success stories 　　one reason we may not like ourselves is we are too focused on what we don’t have that we forget about what we have. so make a list of your achievements; write your success stories. they do not have to be big things; there are a lot of small but important achievements in our life. for example, if you have some good friends, that’s already an achievement. if you have a good family, that is also an achievement. 　　5. stop comparing yourself with others 　　you are unique. you can never be like other people, and neither can other people be like you. the way you measure your success is not determined by other people and what they achieve. instead, it is determined by your own life purpose. you have everything you need to achieve your life purpose, so it's useless to compare yourself with others. 　　6. always be true to yourself 　　you don't like other people lying to you, right? similarly, you won't like yourself if you know that you lie to yourself. whether you realize it or not, that gives your mind a reason not to like yourself. that’s why it's important to always be true to yourself. in whatever you do, be honest and follow your conscience. remember this quote by abraham lincoln: 　　i desire so to conduct the affairs of this administration that if at the end . . . i have lost every other friend on earth, i shall at least have one friend left, and that friend shall be down inside of me.
与自己的友谊最重要，因为没有它就无法与世界上的其他人的朋友。--埃利诺罗斯福我们常常专注于与他人建立关系，我们忘记了重要的第一步：做自己的朋友。这是关键的第一步，如果我们有良好的人际关系。我们如何能如果我们甚至没有好与自己的关系，有良好的人际关系？这个问题可能比我们想象的还要糟糕。也许我们不喜欢自己没有意识到。这里是一个简单的清单；有什么你不喜欢自己的名单吗？你的过去，也许你已经在过去，你觉得不好的错误。你可能会失望，自己为什么会犯这样的错误。即使发生在遥远的过去，你的潜意识仍然有理由不喜欢自己。你的背景，你可能希望你出世在不同的家庭，或者你有不同的背景。也许你不能接受这个事实，你不如别人幸运，他们似乎毫不费力地得到他们想要的任何东西，因为他们的背景。你的人格特质，你可能有一些不喜欢你的个性。例如，你可能是一个内向的人，你不喜欢它；你希望你是一个性格外向的人。你的成就相对其他人可能比你更好，不管你如何努力尝试，它似乎无法赶上他们。你可能认为这是因为你不够聪明，没有足够的人才。有什么与你产生共鸣？所有这些都给了你不喜欢自己的理由。这反过来又使它成为一个好朋友对你自己的困难。幸运的是，总是有一些事情你可以做修复的情况。这里有一些提示：1。原谅自己，你可能有那些在过去犯了错，但有什么可以做的呢？我不这么认为，除了从它们。这是真的，你是不完美的，但也不是其他人。犯错误是正常的，所以，帮自己一个忙，给自己的宽恕。2。接受你不能改变的事情，有一些事情你不能改变的，比如你的背景和你的过去。所以要学会接受他们。你会感到十分欣慰，如果你对待你不能改变的事情，他们的方式值得，只是接受他们，微笑，继续前进。3。重点不是专注在你的弱点，你的优势，集中在你的强项。你总是有一些优势，给你与众不同。认识自己的长处和围绕它们来构建你的生活。健康的生活方式4。写下你的成功故事我们不喜欢自己的一个原因是我们太专注于我们没有的东西，忘记我们所拥有的。让你的成就列出；写下你的成功故事。他们没有重大的事情；在我们的生活中有许多小但重要的成就。例如，如果你有一些好朋友，这已经是一个成就。如果你有一个好的家庭，也是一个成就。5。不要与别人比较，你是独一无二的。你不能像其他人，而其他人也不可能像你。你衡量成功的方法不是由其他人以及他们的实现。相反，它是由你自己的人生目标。你有你需要的一切，以达到您的生活目的，所以它是无用的，比较自己与他人。6。总是做真实的自己，你不喜欢别人对你撒谎，对吗？同样的，如果你知道你对自己撒谎，你会不喜欢你。无论你是否意识到，它会让你不喜欢自己的理由。这就是为什么总是对自己诚实的重要。无论你做什么，要诚实，遵循你的良知。记得亚伯拉罕的名言林肯：我希望如此进行事务的这个政府，如果最后。..我已经失去了所有的朋友，我将至少有一个朋友离开，那个朋友就在我的内心深处。