20个标志80后成熟：双语美文欣赏人生篇

1 tone down your fashions. first impressions do count.
you can still wear brightly colored clothes, but look at the fit and the style.
wear more tailored clothing, more put together.
不再那么在乎外表。当你发现自己不再盲目的喜欢跟风似的和一群人混在一起，开始尊重自己的意愿做自己需要做的事情，开始安排自己的种种计划，规划自己的方向，自己的独处也变得充满意义。
2 use manners. try to be courteous without being stuffy or inflexible.
when meeting new people, shake their hand. a solid grip, but not too hard, two pumps of the hand and let go. don't look at your hands; look them in the eye. repeat their name and make an effort to remember it.
avoid interrupting people during conversation; people find this irritating.

don't play with things, look away, or fidget.
注意自己的仪态。心态，健全平和的心态是始终贯穿成功之路的筹码。正确地树立前进的目标，让生活目标而不是在沉重氛围的度过，记住，任何时候都不要把自己搞得太累，生活的价值就完全失去了。
3 have a genuine good attitude and a goodwill towards others.
goodwill towards others is a sign of maturity because it shows that you have recognized that "we are all in this together." no matter what makes us different, there is more that makes us the same.
give people the benefit of the doubt.
be the "bigger person." if someone is rude to you, try not to return the "favor." if you can let it go, don't reply; silence is a good judge. if you can't let it go, simply tell the person that their comment was rude.

友好对待身边每一个人。让自己快乐，让周围的人快乐。绝对比金钱有价值。
4 have confidence in yourself and speak from your heart.
voice your thoughts honestly.
do not apologize for bits of quirkiness, oddities, or weirdness that you may have. they are part of who you are; not everyone can be the same.
自信的生活，开心的笑，成功与快乐并驾齐驱。不以物喜，不以己悲。
5 think before you speak. if you can't think of anything to say, or don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing.
三思而后行。学着尊重每个人每个生物，就如向日葵喜欢面对太阳才会微笑。
6 "be slow to anger". people that lose temper and/or self-control easily may be recognized as insecure or immature.

不再容易生气。当你再遇到不顺心的事情时不再是用哭闹来解决问题，眼泪能冲刷的永远是面容，能改变现状的只有行动。
7 learn to apologize sincerely for your mistakes, inappropriate words and actions towards others. it might take some practice and courage to overcome your pride, but remember: the best way to act mature is by being truly mature.
敢于承认自己的错误。重视自己的朋友，爱人。因为这些人不是总会存在你的生命中的，也许在不轻易间就物事人非了。在他们面前你无需作假，天真无瑕的自己在这个大千世界里是为他们上演的。切忌不要忘了真诚。
8 listen, slightly nod, and say little things like, "oh, yes," to let them know you are listening. make sure you are actually listening.
仔细聆听他人，觉得对的地方点头赞同，让对方知道你是在听着的。

9 remember, when you speak, use facial expressions and be funny as usual, but be more serious in conversation.
在聊天时打打闹闹，在谈判时认认真真。
10 be helpful. hold doors, help pick things up, and offer help and assistance when needed.
乐于助人。帮助他人关门，捡起东西等等。
11 talk about mature things to people: work, life experiences, and life lessons you have learned, or just about how beautiful it is outside. notice how they carry themselves, how they dress, and how they speak.
讨论工作，生活和学习。在面对得与失，去与留的问题上，大度与开怀会让复杂的事情变得简单，简单的事情变得富有意义。
12 keep in mind, around kids, squat down to their size when you talk to them. don't act fake when they tell you something that is a big accomplishment to them. say, "awesome!" or, "wow, good job." kids feel good when you are truly amazed instead of patronizing.

尊敬老人和善待儿童。任何时候不要与老人与小孩子计较，生命的开始是无知的，生命的完结应该快乐的。
13 try to use proper grammar and spelling whenever you write, including instant messaging and online games.
开始注重自己的语法和拼写。
14 keep an open mind. just because you have never heard of or tried something, doesn't mean you should shut it out or dismiss the possibility. rather, see it as an opportunity for you to learn about something （or someone） new and different.
思维活跃。当你面对很多选择时，不再犹豫不定，脑中会很快得闪过三个以上选择某种选项的必要原因。有了自己独立的思想，开始学着镇定理性得思考问题。
15 learn to control your temper. above all, if somebody does something you don't agree with, try not to shout or carry on. instead, let it go if it is a minor matter. if you must say something or disagree with someone, do so tactfully and in a conversational tone of voice. you'll find that people respond more positively, too.

学会控制自己。淡忘仇恨，春暖花开。心有多大，舞台就有多大。
16 don't swear, or at the very least, save the swearing for times that really warrant it. swearing mainly demonstrates to others that you have poor control over your temper. instead, try learning some other words to show your displeasure with something. something that's not up to your standards could be terrible, lousy, rotten, crummy, no-good, and so on. many of these terms will help you zero in on what the trouble is, communicate more effectively, and perhaps even move towards a solution.
try it! you will probably find that people will listen to you better and take you more seriously if you don't swear.
不再轻易许诺。当你开始觉得时间明显得不够用，渐渐的觉得睡懒觉，逛街等是相当浪费时间金钱的事情，思想与行动上的时间概念达成了一致，合理的安排时间，充实的生活会把自己带入一个更喜欢的世界。

17 accept compliments gracefully. if somebody has taken the trouble to compliment you, the least you can do is appreciate it.
接受别人的赞扬。如果别人赞扬了你，你一定要谢谢他。
18 take criticism gracefully, too. not all of it is valid, but it is often worth giving some thought to how others see you and what you can improve.
虚心接受批评。虽然别人的意见不一定全对，但总有值得你去思考的地方。
19 be mature and polite online, too.
成熟礼貌。当你在上网或阅读时，会把侧重点从一味的关注娱乐杂谈转移到新闻国事，经济发展趋势的版图，娱乐杂谈永远是用来开怀大笑的，而新闻国事则是提高个人认知程度关心国家发展以及爱国的表现，开放的心灵开放的国度，互通有无，共同进步，闭关锁国万万不得已，经济发展趋势往往会影响人们囊中银子的分量。

20.quit drinking caffeine. this includes coffee, soda, tea and most energy drinks. caffeine makes you hyperactive, which in turn, makes you immature. try to not drink caffeine, but if you do, take it in small amounts. sugar can also make you very hyper.
注重饮食。当你在饮食习惯上越来越重视食物的质量，养生之道的念头闯入脑海，学着坚持吃早餐，每天坚持锻炼身体。俗话说得好，留在青山在，不怕没柴烧。这个道理无人不知晓吧。