How to be your own friend 如何成为自己的朋友

friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.- eleanor roosevelt
we often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. that is the crucial first step if we are to have good relationships with others. how can we have good relationships with others if we don't even have good relationship with ourselves?
the problem might be worse than we expect. maybe we don't like ourselves without realizing it. here is a simple checklist; is there anything you don't like about yourself from these list?
your past
maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. you might be disappointed with yourself on why you could make such mistakes. even if that happened in distant past, your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.
your background
you might wish that you were born in different family, or that you have different background. maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as others, who seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background.
your personality traits
you might have some personality traits that you don't like. for example, you may be an introvert and you don't like it; you wish you are an extrovert.

与自己的友谊最重要，因为没有它就无法与世界上的其他人的朋友。--埃利诺罗斯福我们常常专注于与他人建立关系，我们忘记了重要的第一步：做自己的朋友。这是关键的第一步，如果我们有良好的人际关系。我们如何能如果我们甚至没有好与自己的关系，有良好的人际关系？这个问题可能比我们想象的还要糟糕。也许我们不喜欢自己没有意识到。这里是一个简单的清单；有什么你不喜欢自己的名单吗？你的过去也许你已经在过去，你觉得不好的错误。你可能会失望，自己为什么会犯这样的错误。即使发生在遥远的过去，你的潜意识仍然有理由不喜欢自己。你的背景你可能希望你出世在不同的家庭，或者你有不同的背景。也许你不能接受这个事实，你不如别人幸运，他们似乎毫不费力地得到他们想要的任何东西，因为他们的背景。你的人格特质你可能有一些不喜欢你的个性。例如，你可能是一个内向的人，你不喜欢它；你希望你是一个性格外向的人。