相中有缘人—佚名(中英对照)

Divorce is painful-unhappy marriage are wrose.It will be tough enough to make a life with another person if you pick the right person.Don't start married life with two strikes against the two of you.You can avoid this irreversible error.Try the following tips.
离婚是痛苦的，但不幸的婚姻更为糟糕。即使你选对了人，要和另外一个人共度一生也绝非易事。别让你们的婚姻生活令你们同时遭受这两种不幸。如果你能遵循以下忠告，就可以避免犯这个无法逆转的错误。
Before you marry,think long and hard what marriage means to you .Why are you getting married?To eliminate a deficit in your existence (for example,loneliness)or to enjoy life more fully by sharing it with someone else?The latter is a healthier reason.
结婚之前，花时间好好想想婚姻对你到底意味着什么，你为什么要结婚？是为了消除人生的某种欠缺（比如孤独），还是想与另一个人分享你的生活，从而使你从中获得更多的快乐？后者应该是婚姻更为健康的出发点。
What explicit expectations do you have for a spouse?Are there any behaviors you insist upon?What kind of relationship are you hoping for?Discuss the answers to these questions with your future spouse.
你对配偶有什么具体的期望？你是否要求他或她应该具有什么样的行为举止？你希望你们两人的关系如何？和你未来的配偶谈谈这些问题，交换意见。
Over a period of weeks discuss the expectations both of you have for marriage.Decide what's really important,resolve any differences,and negotiate to the point where you can willingly buy into cach other's expectations before you tie the knot.
花几周的时间深入交谈你们双方对婚姻的期望。决定好什么是真正重要的，解决两人之间的分歧，通过协商以使双方对婚姻的期望都能得到满足，然后再考虑永结百年之好。
Marry based on compatibility,caring ,and common values,Slight adjustment in these areas may be possible,but don't hope for ,or expect,major changes.
只有在双方感到合得来、彼此关心、有共同的价值观的情况下才能论及婚嫁。可以要求在这些方面做些细微调整，但不可指望有重大的改变。
Do you like everything about the way your future spouse has treated you before you decide to get married?If not,remember:it won't get any better after the ceremony.
在决定结婚之前，问问自己是否真的喜欢未来配偶对待你的方式？如果答案是否定的，请记住：婚礼之后也不会有什么改观。
What do you enjoy more-the things you do for your prospective spouse or the things that he or she does for you?The future looks right for the two of you if you each respond to this question by saying,"The things I do for her(him)."
什么能带给你更大的快乐，是为了你未来的配偶所做的事情还是他或她为你做的事情？如果你们双方对这一问题的答案是“我为他或她做的事情”那么你们两个人的未来将是美好的。
Can you say with confidence that you are looking forward to growing old with this person?
你能否满怀信心的说你期待着和这个人白头到老？